About you:
You are the loving, supportive parent or family member of a person who is transgender or questioning their gender. Maybe you’re early on in this journey and you’re not quite sure what to expect, or maybe you want support thinking through some more complex aspects of supporting someone who is transitioning.
You might want support thinking about how to talk with other family members or how to work with teachers, school administrators, and athletic coaches to fully see and support your child. Perhaps you would like someone to help you get clear on how to work with doctors, or how to help your child to make friends.
What you get:
Through our work together, you’ll have a chance to give yourself some “breathing room” to see the next step for you clearly, and to see how to do it gracefully, and without struggle.
Some helpful distinctions:
Support comes in many forms, and each modality can be extremely helpful. It’s a matter of seeing which type or types of support are most appropriate for you at this time.
Therapy is about healing, coaching is about taking action.
Consulting is about providing technical advice, coaching supports you to tune into your own wisdom.
Mentorship relies on the experience of the mentor, coaching is based on your experience, with growth guided by your own goals and vision.
How it works :
In a coaching relationship, chemistry and fit are important! I want to make sure we’re both clear that we want to work together. The best way to do that is to schedule a free discovery call. Out of that call, you’ll clarify your vision for the future, what the very next step is towards that vision, and see if working together would support you. No matter what, you’ll leave clearer and with a tangible next step.
I use a suggested sliding scale so folks can participate who otherwise couldn’t do so. View rates and sample contract here.
About me:
I’m transgender myself. I’m not sure that I have a typical trans experience, or that there is a “typical” trans experience. What I know is that taking action to be in alignment with who I am has made me a happier and more effective person. It’s made me a more considerate partner and a more loving family member to my parents and brother. I have been fortunate to have had supportive parents and family members in my life and I know what a difference it can make to have people in my corner.
I’m fairly public about my trans identity and I love talking with people about gender. I noticed a few years ago that people were referring their friends to me to talk about how to support their trans kid, whether their kid was in middle school or an adult. They wanted to talk to someone who “got it,” who could answer their questions without judgement, and who could help them think through what to do to support their kid.
I saw that for most people, one-off conversations that live in the realm of friendship or acquaintance-ship or advice-giving were great, but I felt pulled to support people on a different level. I wanted to support people to see clearly who they truly are, what comes up for them when they think about doing something difficult regarding gender identity, and where they might put their energy and attention in order to show up as who they truly are around and regarding their kid.
The truth is, as loving relatives and friends of transgender people, we sometimes fall short or shy away from difficult conversations. Sometimes, we just don’t know what to do, or how to get out of our “rut” of a thought pattern. It can be helpful to have someone lovingly hold us as we clearly see our normal stopping points and what step is ours to take next.